Self-Care
Healthy Shame or Toxic Shame?
Shame. Even the word sucks. I want you to think about something that you have felt shame about, either recently or long term. And, in
May 20, 2020
Shame. Even the word sucks. I want you to think about something that you have felt shame about, either recently or long term. And, in
Humans are funny old things.
On the one hand, we are pretty non-compliant. We tend to, largely, not really go along with what we are asked to do, and we are even less likely to do what we are told to do. If that weren’t true, there would be no need for police, or even laws for that matter.
Dan Siegel is a parenting and brain development expert. His insights into how children and adults sometimes resort to activating the most primitive parts of our brain because a situation becomes so emotional or so many other things are going on for us that we can’t clearly reason, problem solve and find a resolution.
My daughter is 10 right now. She is already a capable and confident person, and I can’t wait to see what kind of adult she becomes. These are the things that I want her to know, now as an 10 year old, but also for her whole life. I’m her Dad, and it’s my proudest job title.
We ask each other a lot of meaningless and trivial questions throughout every day: “How are you?” “How was your night?” “How’s the family?” Nothing sinister, sure, but how many times do we ask those questions because we are