Big Minds vs Small Minds

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There is a storm on Jupiter that is the same size as Earth.

In fact, Jupiter can hold about 1,300 Earths inside it. The Sun is about 10 times bigger than Jupiter, and about 109 times bigger than our planet.

But, even in our galaxy, there are stars that are HUNDREDS of times bigger than our Sun. And our Sun, which is the centre of so much of our thinking, and is difficult to think there is much more to space than just it, is just one of more than 100 BILLION stars in our Milky Way galaxy.

And then if you go out a bit further, our galaxy – even as huge as it is – is just one of BILLIONS of such galaxies in the observable universe. That is, that we know of.

Amongst those other galaxies that we know of, our Milky Way galaxy is pretty small in comparison.

And we worry about what another person on this tiny planet, in this tiny galaxy, in this almost-infinite universe thinks about us?!?

Are they even thinking about you?

And that’s even if they ARE thinking about us. I mean, why would they be? If we are devoting all this time and energy to focus on what other people’s opinions of us are, why wouldn’t they be doing the same thing?

And it’s all just pointless, and kind of silly.

The current average life expectancy in my country, Australia, is 81 years for a male and 84 for a female. We probably spend about half of that working. We could well spend most of that creating and expressing ourselves but, sadly, most of us don’t.

And after that 80-odd years, we are probably not going to reflect back and think, ‘if only I could have convinced more people that I was cool and interesting and not different then I could have made them all love me’.

But this is precisely what a lot of us are spending most of our waking hours trying to do.

I’m done with it. I’m sick of not only me trying to fit in and not be noticed, and conforming so as to not make anyone uncomfortable, or encouraging anyone to think differently. I’m sick of all of us trying to do that.

The very nature of the Impostor’s Syndrome which I talk about a lot, is that one day everyone is going to realise that, in fact, I don’t know what I’m talking about, or what I’m doing, and that I am an impostor in this space, and I’m not what people expect or want or who they want to listen to.

We spend a lot of time trying to avoid that feeling. But actually, I’m getting more OK with that feeling every day. In fact, it’s becoming less of a worry of mine, and more of an aspiration.

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What’s your uniqueness?

I’m tired of people with big minds letting people with small minds be in charge.

Fitting in is so fucking exhausting. Not creating, because someone might not like it, or someone might judge me for it, is patently ridiculous.

I want to create, and build, and write, and draw, and speak, and inspire, and teach, and properly own all of my expression and all of my spirit, and I really  -REALLY – want you to do the same.

I’m tired of people with big minds letting people with small minds be in charge.

I’m tired of stifling my own expression and creativity, while the great majority of people just conform and carry on the same ways, saying and thinking the same things as we are supposed to.

I don’t want that shit for me, and I certainly don’t want it for my kids.

I want them to know that it’s OK for them to be whoever, whatever, and wherever they want to be. I want them to spend their tiny amount of time on our tiny little dot in this almost-infinite universe doing whatever they want to do. And, as long as they lead with empathy, understanding, and kindness, that can only lead to something really great for them, their families, and their communities in the future.

We are given such a short time to create a legacy. And most of us just don’t. That’s not going to be me. And it’s not going to be my kids.

Rock on Superhumans. 

Create, sing, paint, dance, live. It’s all over way too soon, and what someone else thinks of you is their problem, not yours.

Nick Bowditch

Nick Bowditch

Nick Bowditch is a motivational speaker, best-selling author, of 'Reboot Your Thinking' and 'Actually, it IS all about me', and therapist. He is also a successful (and unsuccessful) entrepreneur, TEDx speaker, inspirational storytelling expert, blogger, he makes podcasts, he's a mental health advocate, a sexual abuse victim, and someone who lives with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. He is also a survivor.

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