Breaking the Cycle: How Reparenting Can Help You Overcome Childhood Trauma

Nick Bowditch - Therapist - Breaking the Cycle: How Reparenting Can Help You Overcome Childhood Trauma


Reparenting is a therapeutic approach that involves addressing and healing childhood wounds by taking on the role of a nurturing and supportive parent to oneself. 

It’s a way of giving yourself the love, care, and attention that you may have missed out on as a dhild, and can be incredibly powerful in promoting healing and personal growth. 

In this blog post, I will explore what reparenting is, why it’s important, and some tips for how to practice it.

What is Reparenting?

Reparenting is a therapeutic technique that involves creating a safe and nurturing environment for oneself, allowing the individual to re-parent their inner child. 

Reparenting is based on the idea that many of our emotional and psychological issues stem from unmet childhood needs. 

As children, we rely on our parents or caregivers to meet our basic needs of safety, love, affection, and validation. 

When these needs are not met, we may develop emotional wounds that can continue to affect us into adulthood. 

Reparenting involves acknowledging these wounds and taking on the role of a loving and supportive parent to oneself, in order to heal those wounds and develop greater emotional resilience.

Why is Reparenting Important?

Reparenting is important because it allows individuals to develop a great sense of self-compassion and self-love. 

Many of us carry deep wounds from childhood that we may not even be aware of. These wounds can manifest as low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, addiction, and a host of other issues. 

By practicing reparenting, we can learn to be more compassionate and nurturing toward ourselves, which can help us heal from these emotional wounds and develop greater emotional resilience.

Tips for Reparenting

Here are a few tips that can help you to start reparenting your inner child and working towards being happier and healthier.

1. Practice Self-Compassion

Reparenting involves being kind and nurturing to yourself, just like a loving parent would be to their child. Practice self-compassion by treating yourself with the same kindness, care, and understanding that you would offer to a close friend or family member.

2. Identify Unmet Childhood Needs

Think back to your childhood and identify any unmet needs you may have had. Perhaps you didn’t receive enough affection or attention from your parents, or maybe you felt unsafe or unsupported. Once you identify these needs, you can work to address them by giving yourself the love and support you may have missed out on as a child.

3. Develop a Daily Self-Care Routine

Make self-care a priority by developing a daily routine that includes activities that make you feel good. This could include exercise, meditation, journalling, or spending time in nature. The key is to find activities that help you feel nurtured and supported. 

4. Practice Positive Self-Talk

Reparenting involves changing the way you talk to yourself. Instead of criticising or berating yourself, practice positive self-talk by offering yourself words of encouragement and support.

5. Seek Professional Support

Reparenting can be a challenging process, and it’s important to seek professional support if you’re struggling. A therapist, like me, can help guide you through the process and other additional tools and resources to support your healing.


Reparenting is a powerful therapeutic technique that can help individuals heal from childhood wounds and develop greater emotional resilience.

By taking on the role of a loving and nurturing parent to oneself, individuals can learn to be more compassionate and supportive towards themselves, leading to greater emotional well-being and personal growth. 

If you’re struggling with emotional wounds from childhood, consider giving reparenting a try, and don’t hesitate to contact me if you need my support too.

Nick Bowditch - The best motivational speaker in Australia

Nick Bowditch

Nick Bowditch is a motivational speaker, the best-selling author of Reboot Your Thinking and Actually, it IS all about me, and a therapist and coach. He is also a successful (and unsuccessful) entrepreneur, TEDx speaker, inspirational storytelling expert, blogger, podcaster, and a passionate mental health advocate. 

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